When you and your partner have been together a long time, the next thought that comes to your mind is marriage. The big question of ‘when are they going to tie the knot?’ will be on yours and everyone else’s mind. It is easy for others to speculate and to keep asking you about it, but it’s up to the both of you to decide when that special day will be.
So, how do you know if your boy friend is husband material? It’s a toughie.
By knowing the sure signs that a guy is NOT marriage material. The handy list of big red flags below will help you size up a potential spouse quickly and determine whether or not he has what it takes to be fully invested in a fulfilling marital partnership.
1. You are Comfortable and Happy to Make Future Plans With Him
If making plans with this man doesn’t get you excited- or at least happy- then he might not be the man for you. If you can’t make a simple future plan together, how will you spend the rest of your LIFE with this guy? You should be completely comfortable and happy to make future plans with your man, from a simple trip to the lake next month to ten kids in the next 20 years.
2.He is not a jealous man.
A guy who’s husband material inherently understands that you don’t suddenly become blind to the attractiveness of others just because you’re in a committed relationship. He trusts you. Now there’s a concept!
3. He supports you
It is easy to say that your partner supports your dreams, but it only gets proved when the situation actually demands it. Does he get upset when you are loaded with office work and demands you to meet him for a movie, or simply asks you to concentrate on work? Does he get concerned about your safety and security when you are returning home late from work, or whines about your work life? A supportive partner will always help you to find solutions to a problem and support you in demanding situations. As simple as that!
4. He appreciates you
Your boyfriend will surely make a good husband if he appreciates all the efforts you chip in for the relationship. Whether it’s cooking his favorite meal, cleaning his wardrobe, picking him up from his workplace or simply offering a cup of coffee when he is down with a headache, a good partner (this applies to you as well) always appreciate your efforts, and will not count them as your responsibilities.
5. His lifestyle
This might sound frivolous, but it is really important for your partner to have a healthy mental and emotional health. Does he have temper issues, and frequently blasts off on you to get rid of his stress? Or, does he get anxious for no reason and tries to run away from everything? Not just this, what about his drinking and smoking habits? Brood about how healthy his daily lifestyle is before planning to live under the same roof with him forever.
6. What about his feelings?
You might have fallen head over heels for him, and can’t imagine your life without him. But does he feel the same? We all know one-sided love never leads to a happy relationship, and you cannot force someone to love you. You both must be on the same page emotionally, and have same expectations from your married life.